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  1. Thank you for a great parenting advice it’s always a challenge with technology appreciate your tips

  2. Found this really interesting. I don’t give my parenting that much conscious thought but I think I will do now my little girl is nearly 2 and we are soon to have another one. Really agree with being a role model for your children.

  3. Great tips! When my daughter was young people used to say “oh she’s shy” and I would immediately say “no, she’s not shy”. If I let people “tell” my daughter that she was shy, she surely would have beeen. Each child has their own way of learning!

  4. Thank you so much for these tips! I have been feeling strained with my 3 year old son and I have noticed that I have been talking about the problems we have been having with my husband and my son has over heard. I feel bad about this and I have noticed that he will continue to participate in the negative actions that we have been talking about. Instead I will encourage him and model the actions that are more desirable. Thanks so much for reminding me of this today!

    1. Jenna- thanks for sharing. My daughter is also 3 and it can be challenging at times. I myself need to be reminded of positive parenting techniques. It’s easy to get in a rut. Remember to forgive yourself. Parenting is a learning journey!

  5. Thank you for all these great tips! As a kid I really felt a lack of positive affirmations from my parents and I’ll definitely try to do better with my kids!

  6. GREAT read. You have laid it out so simply but yet I will be thinking about it all day. Definitely want to read more about that Pygmalion Effect. I’m huge into studies like that. Our mind is a powerful thing

  7. These are really great reminders. Especially of how important our example is to our children – even the seemingly small things like our facial expressions make a difference!

  8. These are great tips! However, I find it helpful to talk with trusted friends and family about struggles I am having with my daughters. I love getting tips and encouragement from others who may have experienced similar things.

    1. Great point Ayanna! I like to seek wisdom from others as well! I just have to make sure my heart is in the right place…am I complaining (because, there are times when I want to) or am I truly seeing counsel.

    2. I agree with you Ayanna. I also like getting some suggestions from close friends and my mom. She is my best friend and is never judging. She usually has some great suggestions that gives me a new view on the situation.

  9. I absolutely needed to read this today. I’ve been struggling to be a good role model, mostly because pregnancy hormones are SO strong lately. But this was perfect.

  10. What a fascinating study! These tips are all great reminders. I try hard to do all of these things… but I think we all get “stuck in a rut” at times so I was glad to stumble across this article this morning.

  11. I love how positive this is, especially the part about not participating in gripe sessions or publicly complaining about your child’s struggles.

  12. Excellent reminder! I am working on actively encouraging my 3-year-old, lately, he gets so frustrated when he feels he does something wrong, such as he can’t write the letter “S” correctly. It takes a conscious effort to see this as a teaching opportunity and help him work through his frustration.

  13. This post has made me believe that what I am doing is probably right for my kid. As a kid myself, academics was given more importance. I hope to let my daughter dream and also live her dreams. Thank you so much for this post. 🙂

  14. These are really great tips. I’m curious about the not talking with friends or family about your child’s struggles. How do you recommend getting advice or feedback? My friends and family are my go to when I need advice on something. Particularly, if I know they have experience in an area. I would probably still be second guessing myself concerning a developmental concern I had several months ago, had it not been for my brother and a good friend giving me advice based on their own experience and expertise. I really love this post and all your tips, that’s why I’m asking what you recommend. 🙂

    1. Great question Inez! I should probably clarify within the post, I’ve had a few people ask me about this same point. I too seek advice from family and trusted friends. The caution is around the the attitude and timing of such a discussion (again, I should me more explicit in the post). Regarding the attitude, there have definitely been times when I have vented about my “threenager” with a friend/family member and I wasn’t truly seeking advice. Those sorts of conversations aren’t particularly helpful. The second caution is regarding the timing…if the child could potentially overhear it could do more damage than good. I hope that sheds some light on your question. Let me know if you have further questions. 🌷

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